You'll have to save yourself as no one is coming to save you.

Your parents aren’t coming to save you. They’ve done that often enough. Or maybe never at all. Either way, they’re not coming now. You’re all grown. Maybe not grown up, but grown. They’ve got their own stuff to take care of.

Your best friend isn’t coming to save you. He’ll always love you, but he’s knee deep in the same shit you’re in. Work. Love. Health. Staying sane. You know, the usual. You should check in with him some time. But don’t expect him to save you.

Your boss is not coming to save you. Your boss is trying to cover her ass right now. She’s afraid she might get fired. She’s fighting hard to keep everyone on the team. She’s worried about you, but she has no time to save you.

Your high school teacher won’t come and save you. You were always her favorite, and that’s why she tried to equip you as best as she could. But the moment you tossed that hat in the air, you were out of her reach.

Your network is not going to save you. What does that even mean? Isn’t a network supposed to be just friends? How good are those contacts really? Are they just that? Contacts? Would you call them at 11 PM on a Friday? No, those people surely won’t save you.

Obama isn’t coming to save you. He already did his part. He played it well, didn’t he? We can be grateful for leaders like Obama. But they won’t come and save us. They can only do so much.

Your partner won’t come and save you. The last time they tried, they broke up with their ex, and that’s why now, they’re with you. You both agreed you wouldn’t. No more knight in shining armor crap. Just two people, driving in the same lane. Wasn’t that the deal? Honor it. Don’t force your partner to save you.

The news media aren’t here to save you. In fact, they couldn’t care less whether you live or die. The news media are here to exploit you. They sneak into your inbox and feeds, hoping to steal your attention. They throw nightmare headlines at you that’ll suck away your energy. Forget the news. The news will destroy you.

The internet won’t save you. There are some nice people on there. They send helpful things to your inbox. But they’ll also ask you for money. Yeah, they want more money too, just like you. Others aren’t so nice. They’ll also ask for money, but they’re not really helping. They just pretend to be your friend. You can’t live on the internet. It’s just a tool — and tools alone can’t save you.

Your college drinking gang won’t come to save you. God knows where they are. One in jail, one happily married, one on a yacht somewhere? That sounds about right. Unless you wanna have a drink, you probably needn’t pick up the phone. It was the drinking that bound you together. Not the saving each other. That was never part of the deal.

Your audience is not coming to save you. If you have one to begin with. Maybe it’s an audience of ten. They only follow you for your puns. They’re on Twitter for themselves, not for you. If you haven’t helped them with something big, why should they save you?

Your gym trainer will not save you. He’s mostly staring at your ass while hoping his influencer game picks up enough so he can get out of this dump. “Am I big enough to sell supplements yet?” “Yeah, yeah, do another 50 crunches.” By the way, those also won’t save you.

Your financial advisor won’t save you. In fact, he’s probably losing you money. Does he cost more than he earns? Index funds? Tech stocks? Really? You could’ve figured that out on your own. And yet, here he is, collecting his $2,000 fee. I wonder who he’s really advising.

No one is coming to save you — because that’s not how life works.

“Doctors won’t make you healthy. Nutritionists won’t make you slim. Teachers won’t make you smart. Gurus won’t make you calm. Mentors won’t make you rich. Trainers won’t make you fit. Ultimately, you have to take responsibility. [You have to] save yourself.”

Every minute you spend wishing, waiting, hoping someone else will come and save you is a minute not spent saving yourself.

You’re the only one who can give you the gift of freedom.

Freedom from ignorance. Freedom from misery. Freedom from poverty, from sickness, from anxiety and judgment — even freedom from your own mind.

You have to do it. It has to be you. You have to own every single thing that happens in your life. The results you create. The curveballs life throws at you. The mess other people cause that you have to get out of. You must own it all.

You have to let go of people’s opinions. You have to let go of bad habits. You have to stop overspending, underworking, overeating, underestimating, overvaluing, or whatever else you’re doing too much of or too little for.

No one will do it for you. Not because you’re alone or because no one wants to help you or because the world is just a mean place. None of those things are true. No. No one will save you because no one else can.

You are the only one on this planet who can reach into the deepest depths of your soul and pull out every last spark of life that rests within it. You have to do it. It has to be you.

No one is coming to save you — and no one will have to if you save yourself.

अपने खराब सोच और बेकार नजरिए को बदलिये

अधूरा सच व व्यंग्य का पश्चाताप

कृपया जरूरतमंदों की मदद करें

30 दिसंबर की रात मोहन अपनी पत्नी अर्पणा संग एक दोस्त के यहां हुई नये साल की पार्टी से लौट रहा था बाहर बड़ी ठंड थी।

दोनों पति पत्नी कार से वापस घर की और जा रहे थे तभी सड़क किनारे पेड़ के नीचे पतली पुरानी फटी चिथड़ी चादर में लिपटे एक बूढ़े भिखारी को देख मोहन का दिल द्रवित हो गया.

उसने गाडी़ रोकी ।

पत्नी अर्पणा ने मोहन को हैरानी से देखते हुए कहा क्या हुआ ।

गाडी़ क्यों रोकी आपने ।

वह बूढ़ा ठंड से कांप रहा है। अर्पणा  इसलिए गाडी़ रोकी .

तो -?

मोहन बोला अरे यार ..

गाडी़ में जो कंबल पड़ा है ना उसे दे देते हैं..

क्या - वो कंबल - मोहनजी इतना मंहगा कंबल आप इस को देंगे।

अरे वह उसे ओढेगा नहीं बल्की उसे बेच देगा ये ऐसे ही होते है.

मोहन मुस्कुरा कर गाडी से उतरा और कंबल डिग्गी से निकालकर उस बुजुर्ग को दे दिया ।

अर्पणा ने गुस्से में मुंह बना लिया।

अगले दिन नववर्ष के पहले दिन यानि 31 दिसंबर को भी बड़े गजब की ठंड थी...

आज भी मोहन और अर्पणा एक पार्टी (फंग्शन) से लौट रहे थे  तो अर्पणा ने कहा..

चलिए मोहन जी एकबार देखे. उस रात वाले बूढ़े का क्या हाल है..

मोहन ने वहीं गाडी़ रोकी और जब देखा तो बूढ़ा भिखारी  वही था मगर उसके पास वह कंबल नहीं था..

वह अपनी वही पुरानी चादर ओढ़े लेटा था.

अर्पणा ने आँखे बडी करते हुए कहा देखा..

मैंने कहा था की वो कंबल उसे मत दो इसने जरूर बेच दिया होगा ।

दोनों कार से उतर कर उस बूढे के पास गये.

अर्पणा ने व्यंग्य करते हुए पूछा क्यों बाबा

रात वाला कंबल कहां है ? बेच कर नशे का सामान ले आये क्या...?

बुजुर्ग ने हाथ से इशारा किया जहां थोड़ी दूरी पर एक बूढ़ी औरत लेटी हुई थी. जिसने वही कंबल ओढा हुआ था...

बुजुर्ग बोला. बेटा वह औरत पैरों से विकलांग है और उसके कपडे भी कहीं कहीं से फटे हुए है लोग भीख देते वक्त भी गंदी नजरों से देखते है ऊपर से ये ठंड ..

मेरे पास कम से कम ये पुरानी चादर तो है, उसके पास कुछ नहीं था तो मैंने कंबल उसे दें दिया..

अर्पणा हतप्रभ सी रह गयी..

अब उसकी आँखो में  पश्चाताप के आँसु थे वो धीरे से आकर मोहन से बोली..

चलिए...घर से एक कंबल और लाकर बाबा जी को दे भी देते हैं..

दोस्तों ..... घमण्ड न करें,  अपितु किस्मत का धन्यवाद कीजिए कि हम और आप एक अच्छे परिवार में जन्म हुए, इसलिए  देनेवालों की श्रेणी में है, अतः जितना हो सके  जरूरतमंदों की मदद करें।

चिड़ी चोंच भर ले गई। नदी न् घटिये नीर।।

दान दिए धन ना घटे। कह गए दास कबीर।।

How to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence

Developing Strong "People Skills"

We probably all know people, either at work or in our personal lives, who are really good listeners. No matter what kind of situation we're in, they always seem to know just what to say – and how to say it – so that we're not offended or upset. They're caring and considerate, and even if we don't find a solution to our problem, we usually leave feeling more hopeful and optimistic.

We probably also know people who are masters at managing their emotions. They don't get angry in stressful situations. Instead, they have the ability to look at a problem and calmly find a solution. They're excellent decision makers, and they know when to trust their intuition. Regardless of their strengths, however, they're usually willing to look at themselves honestly. They take criticism well, and they know when to use it to improve their performance.

People like this have a high degree of emotional intelligence. They know themselves very well, and they're also able to sense the emotional needs of others.

Would you like to be more like this?

As more and more people accept that emotional intelligence is just as important to professional success as technical ability, organizations are increasingly using it when they hire and promote.

For example, one large cosmetics company recently revised their hiring process for salespeople to choose candidates based on their emotional intelligence. The result? People hired with the new system have sold, on average, $91,000 more than salespeople selected under the old system. There has also been significantly lower staff turnover among the group chosen for their emotional intelligence.

So, what exactly is emotional intelligence, and what can you do to improve yours?

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

We all have different personalities, different wants and needs, and different ways of showing our emotions. Navigating through this all takes tact and cleverness – especially if we hope to succeed in life. This is where emotional intelligence becomes important.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize your emotions, understand what they're telling you, and realize how your emotions affect people around you. It also involves your perception of others: when you understand how they feel, this allows you to manage relationships more effectively.

People with high emotional intelligence are usually successful in most things they do. Why? Because they're the ones that others want on their team. When people with high emotional intelligence send an email, it gets answered. When they need help, they get it. Because they make others feel good, they go through life much more easily than people who are easily angered or upset.

Characteristics of Emotional Intelligence

Developing a framework of five elements that define emotional intelligence:

1. Self-Awareness – People with high emotional intelligence are usually very self-aware. They understand their emotions, and because of this, they don't let their feelings rule them. They're confident – because they trust their intuition and don't let their emotions get out of control.

   They're also willing to take an honest look at themselves. They know their strengths and weaknesses, and they work on these areas so they can perform better. Many people believe that this self-awareness is the most important part of emotional intelligence.

2. Self-Regulation – This is the ability to control emotions and impulses. People who self-regulate typically don't allow themselves to become too angry or jealous, and they don't make impulsive, careless decisions. They think before they act. Characteristics of self-regulation are thoughtfulness, comfort with change, integrity and the ability to say no.
3. Motivation – People with a high degree of emotional intelligence are usually motivated. They're willing to defer immediate results for long-term success. They're highly productive, love a challenge, and are very effective in whatever they do.
4. Empathy – This is perhaps the second-most important element of emotional intelligence. Empathy is the ability to identify with and understand the wants, needs, and viewpoints of those around you. People with empathy are good at recognizing the feelings of others, even when those feelings may not be obvious. As a result, empathetic people are usually excellent at managing relationships, listening and relating to others. They avoid stereotyping and judging too quickly, and they live their lives in a very open, honest way.
5. Social Skills – It's usually easy to talk to and like people with good social skills, another sign of high emotional intelligence. Those with strong social skills are typically team players. Rather than focus on their own success first, they help others develop and shine. They can manage disputes, are excellent communicators, and are masters at building and maintaining relationships.

As you've probably determined, emotional intelligence can be a key to success in your life – especially in your career. The ability to manage people and relationships is very important in all leaders, so developing and using your emotional intelligence can be a good way to show others the leader inside of you.

How to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

The good news is that emotional intelligence can be learned and developed. As well as working on your skills in the five areas above, use these strategies:

• Observe how you react to people. Do you rush to judgment before you know all of the facts? Do you stereotype? Look honestly at how you think and interact with other people. Try to put yourself in thier place and be more open and accepting of their perspectives and needs.
• Look at your work environment. Do you seek attention for your accomplishments? Humility can be a wonderful quality, and it doesn't mean that you're shy or lack self-confidence. When you practice humility, you say that you know what you did, and you can be quietly confident about it. Give others a chance to shine – put the focus on them, and don't worry too much about getting praise for yourself.
• Do a self-evaluation. Try out our emotional intelligence quiz. What are your weaknesses? Are you willing to accept that you're not perfect and that you could work on some areas to make yourself a better person? Have the courage to look at yourself honestly – it can change your life.
• Examine how you react to stressful situations. Do you become upset every time there's a delay or something doesn't happen the way you want? Do you blame others or become angry at them, even when it's not their fault? The ability to stay calm and in control in difficult situations is highly valued – in the business world and outside it. Keep your emotions under control when things go wrong.
• Take responsibility for your actions. If you hurt someone's feelings, apologize directly – don't ignore what you did or avoid the person. People are usually more willing to forgive and forget if you make an honest attempt to make things right.
• Examine how your actions will affect others – before you take those actions. If your decision will impact others, put yourself in their place. How will they feel if you do this? Would you want that experience? If you must take the action, how can you help others deal with the effects?

Key Points

Although "regular" intelligence is important to success in life, emotional intelligence is key to relating well to others and achieving your goals. Many people believe that it is at least as important as regular intelligence, and many companies now use emotional intelligence testing to hire new staff.

Emotional intelligence is an awareness of your actions and feelings – and how they affect those around you. It also means that you value others, listen to their wants and needs, and are able to empathize or identify with them on many different levels.

Kranti Gaurav

IIT Madras

कभी सोचा नहीं था, ऐसे भी दिन आएँगें

कभी सोचा नहीं था ऐसे भी दिन आएँगें 

छुट्टियाँ तो होंगी पर मना नहीं पाएँगे 

आइसक्रीम का मौसम होगा पर खा नहीं पाएँगे 

रास्ते खुले होंगे पर कहीं जा नहीं पाएँगे 

जो दूर रह गए उन्हें बुला नहीं पाएँगे 

और जो पास हैं उनसे हाथ भी मिला नहीं पाएँगे 

जो घर लौटने की राह देखते थे वो घर में ही बंद हो जाएँगे 

और जिनके साथ वक़्त बिताने को तरसते थे उनसे भी ऊब जाएँगें

क्या है तारीख़ कौन सा वार ये भी भूल जाएँगे 

कैलेंडर हो जाएँगें बेमानी बस यूँ ही दिन-रात बिताएँगे 

साफ़ हो जाएगी हवा पर चैन की साँस न ले पाएँगे 

नहीं दिखेगी कोई मुस्कराहट, चेहरे मास्क से ढक जाएँगें 

जो ख़ुद को समझते थे बादशाह (usa) वो मदद को हाथ फैलाएँगे 

और जिन्हें कहते थे पिछड़ा (भारत)वो ही दुनिया को राह दिखलाएँगे

सुना था कलयुग में जब पाप के घड़े भर जाएँगे 

ख़ुद पर इतराने वाले मिट्टी में मिल जाएँगे 

अब भी न समझे नादान तो बड़ा पछताएँगे 

जब खो देंगे धरती तो क्या चाँद पर डेरा जमाएँगे ???

Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish - Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs, the late Apple co-founder being called the Thomas Edison of his time, revealed in a commencement speech at Stanford University in 2005 why he dropped out of college — and why he thought it was one of the best things he ever did. Yet he had other advice for the students. Jobs, whose death at the age of 56 was announced Wednesday night, started that speech by telling about being adopted as a baby, and why, 17 years later, he attended Reed College in Oregon for only six months before dropping out. He said: “My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: ‘We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?’ They said: ‘Of course.’ “My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college. “And 17 years later I did go to college. “But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting. “It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5 cent deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the seven miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example. “Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating. “None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But 10 years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do.” At the end of the speech, his advice to the students went like this: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. “When I was young, there was an amazing publication called “The Whole Earth Catalog, “which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960’s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions. “Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. “And I have always wished that for myself. “And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.”

The Power & Value of Employee Engagement

There are several definitions of employee engagement. However, it can be said that in broad terms, employee engagement brings together job satisfaction, motivation, work effort, organisational commitment, shared purpose, energy and ‘flow’.

In this way, employee engagement describes an internal state of being – physical, mental and emotional – and can also include behaviour, such as commitment and ‘going the extra mile’.

Gathering and measuring engagement

You may have come across employee attitude surveys or focus groups, employee boards and other ways in which engagement is recorded and measured. The advantage of a survey is that it provides a representative sample from across the whole organisation and scores can be tracked over time to see if actions are improving engagement. However, whether or not it is anonymous will have some influence on the way in which people respond.

Focus groups may have a similar challenge; however, by being open forums for discussion they allow organisations to get more qualitative data, and if necessary ask further questions to explore responses in more depth.

When measuring employee engagement by whichever means you choose, it is important that employees feel they can respond honestly without fear of repercussion, and that they feel any issues they raise will be responded to. This isn’t telling them that any reasons for dissatisfaction will necessarily be fixed, but that they will be heard and responded to.

Employee engagement is a workplace approach designed to ensure that employees are committed to their organization's goals, objectives and values, encouraged to contribute to organizational success, and are able at the same time to enhance their own sense of well-being. The importance of employee engagement can't be overstated – employee engagement strategies have been proven to reduce staff turnover, improve productivity and efficiency, retain customers at a higher rate, and make more profits. Most importantly, engaged employees are happier, both at work and in their lives. Employee engagement is a property of the relationship between an organization and its employees. An “engaged employee” is one who is fully absorbed by and enthusiastic about their work and so takes positive action to further the organization's reputation and interests. Employees could appear contented at work but this does not necessarily mean that they are engaged in the true sense. These employees may turn up at work without complaining and get along to doing their tasks of the day. However, making them happy is far different from making them engaged.

Top 5 Things HR Can Do to Improve Employee Engagement:

• Create a Proper Strategy to Start Educating and Supporting Your Workforce.
• Establish Strong Leadership Progression for Business Goals.
• Close the Perceived Gap Between HR and Other Employees.
• Organizational Design & Change Management.
• Driving the Change to Digital Business Transformation.

Engaged employees are happier and therefore typically provide better service to their colleagues and customers, as a result of being positive and proactive. Ensuring great customer service is a huge win for the company, ensuring happy customers into the future. The more engaged your employees are the more efficient and productive they become, and that certainly can't be a bad thing! A study by Wyatt Watson found that companies that have highly engaged employees produce 26% higher revenue per employee. A different study by the World Economic Forum and the Harvard School of Public Health reports employees with healthy habits are 3.1 times more productive than their unhealthy peers. While there are a lot of factors that contribute to productivity in the workplace, healthy employees set the bar high. Managers often mistake employees that are happy while they are taking part in staff meetings or company events, as being engaged employees. An engaged employee cares about their work and about the performance of the company, and they want to feel that their efforts could make a difference. It is generally seen as an internal state of mind; physically, mentally and emotionally that binds together the work effort, commitment and satisfaction in an employee.

Short Motivational Story of a Butterfly in Hindi & English

एक बार, एक व्यक्ति को अपने बागीचे के एक पोधे पर, तितली का एक कोकून बना हुआ दिखाई दिया! तितली जब अंडे से बाहर निकलती है, तो वह एक इल्ली की तरह होती है, जब यह इल्ली पौधों की पत्तियां खा कर बड़ी हो जाती है, तो यह अपने मुह से, रेशम जैसे धागों को बनाकर, अपने आस पास एक खोल बनाकर उसमे बंद हो जाती है, इसी खोल को कोकून कहतें हैं। इस कोकून के अंदर ही, यह इल्ली आश्चर्यजनक रूप से तितली के रूप में विकसित हो जाती है।

वह व्यक्ति, प्रतिदिन सुबह उस कोकून को कोतूहल से देखने लगा। उसे इस प्रकृति की इस अनोखी प्रकिर्या को होते हुए देखने की बहुत इच्छा थी। एक दिन उसने देखा की कोकून का मुह कुछ खुला हुआ है, वह, वहीँ बैठकर तितली को कोकून से बाहर आने की लिए संघर्ष करते हुए देखने लगा। तितली अपनी पूरी ताकत लगाकर कोकून को तोड़कर बाहर आने की कोशिश कर रही थी।

उस व्यक्ति ने सोचा की क्यों ना में इस तितली की मदद करूँ, और यही सोचकर उसने, तिनके की सहायता से पूरा कोकून खोल दिया ताकि तितली आसानी से निकल जाये। तितली आसानी से निकल तो गयी, लेकिन उसका शरीर फूला हुआ और एक पंख मुरझाया हुआ था।

वह व्यक्ति इस इंतज़ार में तितली को देखता रहा की कब उसके पंख खुले और यह कब उड़ेगी। पर अफ़सोस एसा कभी नहीं हुआ, बल्कि वह तितली कभी नहीं उड़ पायी।

अपनी दया और उत्सुकता की जल्दी में, वह व्यक्ति, यह नहीं समझ पाया की कोकून की सख्त खोल को तोड़कर, निकलने के लिए तितली का संघर्ष, ईश्वर द्वारा बनायीं गयी एक आवश्यक तरकीब थी, जिससे तितली के शरीर का तरल और खून उसके पंख में पहुँच कर उसे फैला सके, और वह उड़ान भरने के लिए तैयार हो जाये।

कभी कभी, जीवन में, संघर्ष बहुत ज़रूरी होता है, अगर, God हमारी ज़िन्दगी से सभी कठिनाइयां और संघर्ष हटा ले तो हमारा सम्पूर्ण विकास नहीं हो पायेगा और हम ताकतवर नहीं बन पाएंगे। जीवन में आप जिन संघर्षो का आज सामना कर रहे हैं, वही आपकी उन शक्तियों का विकास कर रहे हैं जिनकी आपको कल ज़रुरत पड़ेगी।

A very inspirational short story that can teach you priceless life lessons to move ahead in life. This moral story also explains the importance of struggle in life for succeeding.

One bright morning a man found a silky cocoon of a butterfly in a garden. He was very eager to see what will happen to that cocoon. Next day the man found a small opening was appearing from the cocoon. He sat there in a sheer curiosity and started watching what happens next to butterfly for several hours.

The butterfly was struggling to wrench its whole body through the little hole. Then suddenly man found that butterfly stopped its movement and couldn't go further. Therefore, the kind man pitied the innocent butterfly and started to help it. He tried to free the butterfly from a tiny hole by cutting the cocoon with the help of scissors.

The butterfly emerged easily because the man helped it, but the butterfly had withered wings with the swollen body.The man was very happy as he helped the butterfly to come out from the tiny cocoon hole.The man continued to watch it.

The man was expecting that any minute the wings of the butterfly would begin to enlarge and it will start to fly but for the man’s surprise, nothing happened!

In fact, the beautiful and innocent butterfly was never able to fly with its beautiful wings.

The man was very kind but what he did not understand is, by restricting cocoon actually he is disrupting the whole life cycle of the butterfly because the struggle for coming out from the cocoon was necessary for butterfly’s life.

It was a natural process of progress but the man interrupted the entire process thus the beautiful butterfly died because of kind man’s foolishness.

Moral Lesson Of The Story:
What can we learn from this short motivational story?

This beautiful short story depicts the importance of struggle in life.The struggle is what makes us strong. The struggle is necessary for life to preparing ourselves for future opportunities.

So, next time when you feel your life is going through struggles, problems, and obstacles, try to remember this inspiring short story to embrace the truth that-

The struggle is a start of achieving something extraordinary.

एक लकड़हारे की कहानी

दोस्तों जॉन नाम का एक लकड़हारा, एक कंपनी में ५ साल से काम कर रहा था, लेकिन उसे अभी तक प्रमोशन नहीं मिला। कुछ ही दिनों बाद बिल नाम का एक लकड़हारा उस कंपनी में आया और उसे एक साल के अंदर ही प्रमोशन मिल गया। जॉन को यह बात बिल्कुल भी अच्छी नहीं लगी। इसके लिए उसने अपने बॉस से बात करी।

उसके बॉस ने कहा – तुम आज भी उतने ही पेड़ काटते हो जितने की ५ साल पहले काटते थे। अगर तुम पहले से अधिक पेड़ काटोगे तो हम तुम्हारा भी प्रमोशन कर देंगे।

अब जॉन पेड़ काटने के लिए पहले से भी ज्यादा देर तक काम करने लगा लेकिन फिर भी ज्यादा पेड़ नहीं काट पाया। उसने यह बात अपने बॉस को बताई।

बॉस ने कहा – शायद बिल कुछ ऐसा जानता है। जो मैं और तुम नहीं जानते। जॉन, बिल के पास गया और पूछा – वह ज्यादा पेड़ कैसे काट लेता है। बिल ने कहा – मैं हर पेड़ काटने के बाद दो मिनट के लिए काम रोक देता हूँ और अपनी कुल्हाड़ी की धार तेज करता हूँ।

In a rapidly changing work environment, it becomes essential to keep up. Almost every industry is in the middle of a major upheaval with skills being redefined in new ways, and employees -no matter which sector they work in -should be prepared to face any kind of situation. Keeping yourself updated is being open to information. So, there can be plenty of sources of information, exploit all of them as and when possible. 

स्वामी विवेकानंद के जीवन के 3 प्रेरक प्रसंग

लक्ष्य पर ध्यान लगाओ 

स्वामी विवेकानंद अमेरिका में भ्रमण कर रहे थे . एक जगह से गुजरते हुए उन्होंने पुल पर खड़े  कुछ लड़कों को नदी में तैर रहे अंडे के छिलकों पर बन्दूक से निशाना लगाते देखा . किसी भी लड़के का एक भी निशाना सही नहीं लग रहा था . तब उन्होंने ने एक लड़के से बन्दूक ली और खुद निशाना लगाने लगे . उन्होंने पहला निशाना लगाया और वो बिलकुल सही लगा ….. फिर एक के बाद एक उन्होंने कुल 12 निशाने लगाये और सभी बिलकुल सटीक लगे . ये देख लड़के दंग रह गए और उनसे पुछा , ” भला आप ये कैसे कर लेते हैं ?”

स्वामी जी बोले , “तुम जो भी कर रहे हो अपना पूरा दिमाग उसी एक काम में लगाओ. अगर तुम निशाना लगा रहे हो तो तम्हारा पूरा ध्यान सिर्फ अपने लक्ष्य पर होना चाहिए. तब तुम कभी चूकोगे नहीं . अगर तुम अपना पाठ पढ़ रहे हो तो सिर्फ पाठ के बारे में सोचो . मेरे देश में बच्चों को ये करना सिखाया जाता है. ”

डर का सामना 

एक बार बनारस में स्वामी जी दुर्गा जी के मंदिर से निकल रहे थे की तभी वहां मौजूद  बहुत सारे बंदरों ने उन्हें घेर लिया. वे उनके नज़दीक आने लगे और डराने लगे . स्वामी जी भयभीत हो गए और खुद को बचाने के लिए दौड़ कर भागने लगे, पर बन्दर तो मानो पीछे ही पड़ गए, और वे उन्हें दौडाने लगे. पास खड़ा एक वृद्ध सन्यासी ये सब देख रहा था , उसने स्वामी जी को रोका और बोला , ” रुको ! उनका सामना करो !”

स्वामी जी तुरन्त पलटे  और बंदरों के तरफ बढ़ने लगे , ऐसा करते ही सभी बन्दर भाग गए . इस घटना से स्वामी जी को एक गंभीर सीख मिली और कई सालों बाद उन्होंने एक संबोधन में कहा भी – ” यदि तुम कभी किसी चीज से भयभीत हो तो उससे भागो मत , पलटो और सामना करो.”

सच बोलने की हिम्मत

स्वामी विवेकानंदा प्रारंभ से ही एक मेधावी छात्र थे और सभी उनके व्यक्तित्व और वाणी से प्रभावित  रहते थे. जब वो साथी छात्रों से कुछ बताते तो सब मंत्रमुग्ध हो उन्हें सुनते. एक दिन इंटरवल के दौरान वो कक्षा में कुछ मित्रों को कहानी सुना रहे थे , सभी उनकी बातें सुनने में इतने मग्न थे की उन्हें पता ही नहीं चला की कब मास्टर जी कक्षा में आये और पढ़ाना शुरू कर दिया.

मास्टर जी ने अभी पढ़ना शुरू ही किया था कि उन्हें कुछ फुसफुसाहट सुनाई दी.

” कौन बात कर रहा है ?” उन्होंने तेज आवाज़ में पूछा . सभी ने स्वामी जी और उनके साथ बैठे छात्रों किई तरफ इशारा कर दिया.

मास्टर जी  तुरंत क्रोधित हो गए, उन्होंने तुरंत उन छात्रों को बुलाया और  पाठ से संबधित एक प्रश्न पूछने लगे. जब कोई भी उत्तर न दे सका ,तब अंत में मास्टर जी ने  स्वामी जी से भी वही प्रश्न किया . पर स्वामी जी तो मानो सब कुछ पहले से ही जानते हों , उन्होंने आसानी से उत्तर दे दिया.

यह देख उन्हें यकीन हो गया कि स्वामी जी पाठ पर ध्यान दे रहे थे और बाकी छात्र बात-चीत में लगे हुए थे. फिर क्या था उन्होंने स्वामी जी को छोड़ सभी को बेंच पर खड़े होने की सजा दे दी . सभी छात्र एक -एक कर बेच पर खड़े होने लगे, स्वामी जे ने भी यही किया.

तब मास्टर जी बोले, ” नरेन्द्र (स्वामी विवेकानंद )) तुम बैठ जाओ.”

” नहीं सर , मुझे भी खड़ा होना होगा क्योंकि वो मैं ही था जो इन छात्रों से बात कर रहा था.”,स्वामी जी ने आग्रह किया.

भगवान बुद्ध का उपदेश

एक समय की बात है भगवान बुद्ध अपने कुछ संतों के साथ रामपुर नामक एक गाँव में कथा कहने के लिये जा रहे थे।

गाँव की तरफ जाते समय उन्हें और उनके संतों को रास्ते में कुछ छोटे-छोटे गड्ढे खुदे हुए दिखायी दिये।

उन संतों में से एक सन्त ने भगवान बुद्ध से पूछा, स्वामी रास्ते में इतने सारे गड्ढे खोदने का क्या कारण हो सकता है?

भगवान बुद्ध ने एक मुस्कराहट के साथ उस सन्त को जवाब दिया कि कोई व्यक्ति यहाँ पानी की तलाश कर रहा था, एक जगह पानी नहीं मिला तो दूसरी जगह गड्ढा किया, और फिर तीसरी, फिर चौथी और जब वो गड्ढा खोद-खोदकर थक गया और इतनी मेहनत करने के बाद भी पानी नहीं मिला तो छोड़ कर चला गया।

अगर वो कई जगह खोदकर पानी ढूँढने के बजाय एक ही जगह अपनी सारी ऊर्जा लगाकर गड्ढा खोदता तो सायद उसे पानी मिल जाता।

इसी लिये कहा जाता है कि किसी भी काम को करते समय धैर्य रखना चाहिये, क्या पता कि हम अपनी मंजिल तक पहुँचने ही वाले हो और बस पास में ही पहुँचकर हार मान लें।

तेरा मेरा रिश्ता

एक garden में एक बार दो बच्चे एक लड़की और एक लड़का खेल रहे थे, लड़के के पास कुछ सुंदर-सुंदर चमकते हुए पत्थर थे और लड़की के पास कुछ chocolates थे।

लड़के ने लड़की को offer किया कि अगर वो अपने सारे chocolates लड़के को दे दे तो वो उसे अपने सारे पत्थर दे देगा।

लड़की तैयार हो गयी और उसने लड़के को उस पत्थर के बदले अपने सारे chocolates दे दिये, लेकिन लड़के ने उसे सारे पत्थर नहीं दिये, उसमें जो सबसे सुंदर और बड़ा पत्थर था उसको उस लड़के ने छुपा लिए और बाकी के सारे पत्थर दे दिये।

अदला-बदली करने के बाद दोनों घर चले गये, रात को जब दोनों सोने गये तो लड़की तो आराम से सो गयी लेकिन लड़का सोचने लगा कि सायद लड़की ने उसे सारे chocolates नहीं दिये थे बल्कि अच्छे chocolates उसने छुपा लिये होगे, और यही सोच-सोचकर उसे पूरी रात नींद नहीं आयी।

Moral of the Story

पहली सीख – अगर किसी भी relationship में आप अपना 100% नहीं देते तो आपको हमेसा ये doubt रहेगा कि उसने अपना 100% नहीं दिया होगा इसलिये don’t cheat with anyone.

दूसरी सीख – आप जिसके साथ जैसा करते है या सोचते हैं वैसा ही आप दूसरो के साथ भी करते हैं इसलिये हमेसा अच्छा करें और अच्छा सोचें।

मेंढकों की टोली

एक मेंढकों की टोली जंगल के रास्ते से जा रही थी. अचानक दो मेंढक एक गहरे गड्ढे में गिर गये. जब दूसरे मेंढकों ने देखा कि गढ्ढा बहुत गहरा है तो ऊपर खड़े सभी मेढक चिल्लाने लगे ‘तुम दोनों इस गढ्ढे से नहीं निकल सकते, गढ्ढा बहुत गहरा है, तुम दोनों इसमें से निकलने की उम्मीद छोड़ दो.

उन दोनों मेढकों ने शायद ऊपर खड़े मेंढकों की बात नहीं सुनी और गड्ढे से निकलने की लिए लगातार वो उछलते रहे. बाहर खड़े मेंढक लगातार कहते रहे ‘ तुम दोनों बेकार में मेहनत कर रहे हो, तुम्हें हार मान लेनी चाहियें, तुम दोनों को हार मान लेनी चाहियें. तुम नहीं निकल सकते.

गड्ढे में गिरे दोनों मेढकों में से एक मेंढक ने ऊपर खड़े मेंढकों की बात सुन ली, और उछलना छोड़ कर वो निराश होकर एक कोने में बैठ गया. दूसरे मेंढक ने प्रयास जारी रखा, वो उछलता रहा जितना वो उछल सकता था.

बहार खड़े सभी मेंढक लगातार कह रहे थे कि तुम्हें हार मान लेनी चाहियें पर वो मेंढक शायद उनकी बात नहीं सुन पा रहा था और उछलता रहा और काफी कोशिशों के बाद वो बाहर आ गया. दूसरे मेंढकों ने कहा ‘क्या तुमने हमारी बात नहीं सुनी.

उस मेंढक ने इशारा करके बताया की वो उनकी बात नहीं सुन सकता क्योंकि वो बेहरा है सुन नहीं सकता, इसलिए वो किसी की भी बात नहीं सुन पाया. वो तो यह सोच रहा था कि सभी उसका उत्साह बढ़ा रहे हैं. 

कहानी से सीख |

1. जब भी हम बोलते हैं उनका प्रभाव लोगों पर पड़ता है, इसलिए हमेशा सकारात्मक बोलें.

2. लोग चाहें जो भी कहें आप अपने आप पर पूरा विश्वाश रखें और सकरात्मक सोचें.

3. कड़ी मेहनत, अपने ऊपर विश्वाश और सकारात्मक सोच से ही हमें सफलता मिलती है.

चमकीले नीले पत्थर की कीमत

एक शहर में बहुत ही ज्ञानी प्रतापी साधु महाराज आये हुए थे, बहुत से दीन दुखी, परेशान लोग उनके पास उनकी कृपा दृष्टि पाने हेतु आने लगे. ऐसा ही एक दीन दुखी, गरीब आदमी उनके पास आया और साधु महाराज से बोला ‘महाराज में बहुत ही गरीब हूँ, मेरे ऊपर कर्जा भी है, मैं बहुत ही परेशान हूँ। मुझ पर कुछ उपकार करें’.

साधु महाराज ने उसको एक चमकीला नीले रंग का पत्थर दिया, और कहा ‘कि यह कीमती पत्थर है, जाओ जितनी कीमत लगवा सको लगवा लो। वो आदमी वहां से चला गया और उसे बचने के इरादे से अपने जान पहचान वाले एक फल विक्रेता के पास गया और उस पत्थर को दिखाकर उसकी कीमत जाननी चाही।

फल विक्रेता बोला ‘मुझे लगता है ये नीला शीशा है, महात्मा ने तुम्हें ऐसे ही दे दिया है, हाँ यह सुन्दर और चमकदार दिखता है, तुम मुझे दे दो, इसके मैं तुम्हें 1000 रुपए दे दूंगा।

वो आदमी निराश होकर अपने एक अन्य जान पहचान वाले के पास गया जो की एक बर्तनों का व्यापारी था. उनसे उस व्यापारी को भी वो पत्थर दिखाया और उसे बचने के लिए उसकी कीमत जाननी चाही। बर्तनो का व्यापारी बोला ‘यह पत्थर कोई विशेष रत्न है में इसके तुम्हें 10,000 रुपए दे दूंगा. वह आदमी सोचने लगा की इसके कीमत और भी अधिक होगी और यह सोच वो वहां से चला आया.

उस आदमी ने इस पत्थर को अब एक सुनार को दिखाया, सुनार ने उस पत्थर को ध्यान से देखा और बोला ये काफी कीमती है इसके मैं तुम्हें 1,00,000 रूपये दे दूंगा।

वो आदमी अब समझ गया था कि यह बहुत अमुल्य है, उसने सोचा क्यों न मैं इसे हीरे के व्यापारी को दिखाऊं, यह सोच वो शहर के सबसे बड़े हीरे के व्यापारी के पास गया।उस हीरे के व्यापारी ने जब वो पत्थर देखा तो देखता रह गया, चौकने वाले भाव उसके चेहरे पर दिखने लगे. उसने उस पत्थर को माथे से लगाया और और पुछा तुम यह कहा से लाये हो. यह तो अमुल्य है. यदि मैं अपनी पूरी सम्पति बेच दूँ तो भी इसकी कीमत नहीं चुका सकता. 

कहानी से सीख |

हम अपने आप को कैसे आँकते हैं. क्या हम वो हैं जो राय दूसरे हमारे बारे में बनाते हैं. आपकी लाइफ अमूल्य है आपके जीवन का कोई मोल नहीं लगा सकता. आप वो कर सकते हैं जो आप अपने बारे में सोचते हैं. कभी भी दूसरों के नेगेटिव कमैंट्स से अपने आप को कम मत आकियें.

The Group of Frogs

A group of frogs were travelling through the forest when two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that there was no hope left for them.

However, the two frogs ignored their comrades and proceeded to try to jump out of the pit. However, despite their efforts, the group of frogs at the top of the pit were still saying that they should just give up as they’d never make it out.

Eventually, one of the frogs took heed of what the others were saying and he gave up, jumping even deeper to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the group of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and to just die.

He ignored them, and jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, “Did you not hear us?”

The frog explained to them that he was deaf, and that he thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

Moral of the story: People’s words can have a huge effect on the lives of others. Therefore, you should think about what you’re going to say before it comes out of your mouth – it might just be the difference between life and death.

जब रूठ गई लक्ष्मी जी, सुनार ने क्या किया?

एक सुनार से लक्ष्मी जी रूठ गई ।

जाते वक्त बोली मैं जा रही  हूँ

और मेरी जगह नुकसान आ रहा है ।

तैयार हो जाओ।

लेकिन मै तुम्हे अंतिम भेट जरूर देना चाहती हूँ।
मांगो जो भी इच्छा हो।

सुनार बहुत समझदार  था।
उसने विनती करी नुकसान आए तो आने  दो ।

लेकिन उससे कहना की मेरे परिवार  में आपसी  प्रेम  बना रहे। बस मेरी यही इच्छा  है।

लक्ष्मी जी ने तथास्तु कहा।

कुछ दिन के बाद :-

सुनार की सबसे छोटी बहु खिचड़ी बना रही थी।

उसने नमक आदि  डाला और अन्य काम करने लगी।

तब दूसरे लड़के की बहू आई और उसने भी बिना चखे नमक डाला और चली गई।

इसी प्रकार तीसरी, चौथी बहुएं आई और नमक डालकर चली गई ।

उनकी सास ने भी ऐसा किया।

शाम को सबसे पहले सुनार आया।

पहला निवाला मुह में लिया।
देखा बहुत ज्यादा नमक  है।

लेकिन वह समझ गया नुकसान (हानि) आ चुका है।

चुपचाप खिचड़ी खाई और चला गया।

इसके बाद बड़े बेटे का नम्बर आया।

पहला निवाला मुह में लिया।
पूछा पिता जी ने खाना खा लिया क्या कहा उन्होंने ?

सभी ने उत्तर दिया-" हाँ खा लिया, कुछ नही बोले।"

अब लड़के ने सोचा जब पिता जी ही कुछ नही बोले तो मै भी चुपचाप खा लेता हूँ।

इस प्रकार घर के अन्य सदस्य एक -एक आए।

पहले वालो के बारे में पूछते और चुपचाप खाना खा कर चले गए।

रात को नुकसान (हानि) हाथ जोड़कर

सुनार से कहने लगा  -,"मै जा रहा हूँ।"

सुनार ने पूछा- क्यों ?

तब नुकसान (हानि) कहता है, " आप लोग एक किलो तो नमक खा गए  ।

लेकिन बिलकुल भी झगड़ा नही हुआ। मेरा यहाँ कोई काम नहीं।"

इस कहानी से हमे क्या शिक्षा मिलती है?

⭐ झगड़ा कमजोरी, हानि, नुकसान की पहचान है।

👏 जहाँ प्रेम है, वहाँ लक्ष्मी  का वास है।

सदा प्यार -प्रेम  बांटते रहे। छोटे -बङे  की कदर करे ।

जो बङे हैं, वो बड़े ही रहेंगे ।

चाहे आपकी कमाई उसकी कमाई से बड़ी हो। 🙏🙏

अच्छा लगे तो आप जरुर किसी अपने को भेजें।

Ten Signs Your Boss Is A Manager -- But Not A Leader By Kranti Gaurav

A simple way to answer the question "What's the difference between managing and leading?"

Managing people means watching them to make sure they do what they're supposed to do.

The concept of traditional supervision is rooted in the fear that working people will misbehave or make mistakes if someone isn't watching them to make sure they don't.

A manager marches backwards, watching their troops like a hawk in case somebody is marching incorrectly. They cannot look out over the horizon when they're marching backwards!

A leader faces forward and marches confidently, assuming their troops will follow them because they trust their troops and themselves.

Leaders are confident enough to hire people they can trust and let them do whatever they do best with a minimum of oversight.

Managers cannot relax into trust. They are keyed up, judgmental and certain that dire consequences will befall them if they ever let their vigilance flag.

Managerial fear is the great unaddressed workplace topic that sucks vision, creativity, collaboration and profitability from organizations large and small!

It is hard to talk a fearful manager into adopting a confident leader's mindset because to do so the fearful manager would have to gain a level of self-awareness that they do not understand.

Because they sit in fear, they assume everyone is guarded and political the way they are.

They cannot see trust. They believe that without their constant inspection and evaluation, their department would fall to pieces.

We have been so well-trained in the concepts of fear-based management that we do not recognize there is another way to lead. We can lead without reams of policies and rules.

We can lead people by involving them in decision-making and inspiring them to band together to accomplish something cool.

It is a human urge to create and collaborate unless we thwart the urge by rating and ranking people relative to one another and by tying them down with pointless daily and weekly yardsticks.

When we make work a zero-sum game where my triumph is my co-worker's downfall, we are not only cruel but bad business people, also.

Here are 10 signs your boss is a manager — but not a leader.

1. They don't ask for their teammates' opinions before making decisions. They do not dare to share their authority with anyone. They believe their authority to make decisions without asking for input is the source of their power.

2. They do not acknowledge their employees for their effort or accomplishments. They are afraid to thank and recognize their teammates because they need to keep the unequal power relationship intact.

3. They cannot be wrong. Even when everybody knows the manager is wrong, no one will say it because of the force field around the manager. They pretend the manager is not wrong and the manager pretends to believe it, too.

4. They cannot handle dissent or even polite debate.

5. They can only take advice from their subordinates when they are behind closed doors with one person.

6. They do not allow their employees to interact with higher-level managers for fear that a higher-up leader might trust their team member's advice more than their own.

7. They do not stand up for their team members when they could. They will not spend political capital on anyone except themselves.

8. They don't give their teammates visibility into the future, even when it would help the employee and the company to do so. They have taken the adage "Knowledge is power" to heart. They hoard whatever information they acquire, and dole it out in tiny doses.

9. They discount any information or feedback that feels threatening to their political status. When they say "I'll take that idea under advisement" they want to shut you up. They have no intention of considering your idea.

10. They are more concerned about maintaining whatever status, prestige or organizational power they have accumulated than in doing the best thing for the organization.

How do fearful managers keep their jobs? They keep their jobs because they deliver one kind of business result — the  numeric kind — for a limited period of time.

They deliver that result by managing through fear.

Over time, a fear-based manager will fail because they have no credibility. No one trusts them.

Fear is a good motivator in the short term but useless over the long term as person after person realizes that the little-tin-god manager has very limited power over them.

If your manager is stuck in fear, your first assignment is to start building an escape hatch.

Life is long, but it's still too short to waste your time and talent working for someone who doesn't deserve you my dear Friends.

Stay Fit, Take Care & Keep Smiling :-)

God Bless !!

Kranti Gaurav
XLRI Jamshedpur